When to be exclusive in a dating relationship
Good communication should essentially be clear, calm, and direct.
A partner who can openly discuss their feelings, hopes, and fears, and who can handle disagreements without a huge conflict is a keeper. It’s the main ingredient in a relationship that lasts.
Sometimes the best thing to do is to give it time and allow a strengthening bond to develop that is naturally exclusive.
Not everyone likes to communicate with lots of matches or date more than one person.
For someone like this the decision to be exclusive will often involve closing their dating account because they’ve found the road that didn’t lead to a dead end but opened up to future happiness.
Being exclusive isn’t a commitment to spend the rest of your life with someone simply to give them your undivided time and attention while you explore whether there is enough of a connection between you to build a life together.
Before you might have looked forward to new matches with eager anticipation, but now you take a quick glance and usually dismiss them without even reading their profile.
Perhaps you were dating other people but your attention has dropped; now there’s only one person on your mind and no-one else seems to compare.
Not everything has to be analysed or a date set for it.
So you’ve met someone who’s grown on you, and you’re thinking it might be time to make it official. If this wasn’t there at the start, it isn’t going to appear later.
Before you delete that online profile, here are a few things to ask yourself to make sure you’re diving in with the right partner. Is his personality aligned with what he shows you and the rest of the world? If you’re dating someone who struggles with being authentic with you, it can be a challenge to build a genuine partnership. If you’re not ready to let down your guard with each other, it might be a good idea to wait it out before you make that commitment to be exclusive. The key is whether you’re sexually compatible with your partner. If sex is important, you want the flame of desire to be present, or you may find yourself going through the motions of sex and resenting it later on. If you don’t have trust, it becomes impossible to grow into a committed relationship.
If you’re a highly sexual person and dating someone who is uncomfortable with sex, this could spell trouble in the long run.
Talk about it and find out if you’re on the same page.