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"With a lot of these naming and shaming pages and websites, when I see them I think, what's the purpose of this?" she told ."Will it change someone's bad behaviour? ""People who participate in this bad behaviour online - I don't think they have the self-reflection to see those things online and look back at their own behaviour and think how could I have done this differently?That argument falls down when you consider the guy who sent the string of 20 unanswered messages that ended with "ugly bitch" is probably not that sensitive to public-shaming.At Bad Dates of Melbourne, the Facebook page of 68,000 followers, users send their stories to the administrator, Alita Brydon, who then posts them anonymously.“It’s more possible to find someone now than at probably any other time in history, particularly if you’re older.
Alexandra says the popularity of pages like hers - another one, @tindernightmares, has two million followers - is partly because with online dating you can screenshot the dumb and ugly things people text, while you can't screenshot a catcall in the street. Perhaps these pages are a bit like the manuals on etiquette that became popular in England under Queen Victoria, aimed at the newly affluent middle-classes wishing to join polite society.Married daters are more common than we’d like to think, says dating coach Laurel House, host of the podcast The Man Whisperer.Her tip: “A little pre-date due diligence is smart.Seen in this light, pages like @byefelipe and @tindernightmares may be popular for offering an antidote to the alienating experience of online dating.They transform the private experience of getting creeped on through text into something communal and laughable. It's also probably a better reason for existence than the hope of changing behaviour.