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Which is to say, it looks and feels like a regular conversation. But, it could also just be a legit platonic hang out. Chad could also deny it not because he’s shy but because he wants to play coy and flirty, something like “A date? Oh no, [wink wink] just wanted to hang with you.” Which is still confusing. ”I recommend using context clues to determine if you’re dating. They don’t conquer black girls the way their ancestors conquered countries.
If that is happening with you, it could be them flirting. But, if you guys hang more than five times and nothing physical or romantic happens (hand holding, a kiss or more), then either it’s not a date or he’s a monk.
Also, tell the truth, it’s not just white people who differ on recipes, you know one of your Aunts makes potato salad in a weird way which is why she’s not allowed to bring it to family functions anymore.
Hate to break it to you sis, but he’s a white person who has grown up in western society so he can’t help but be racist/prejudiced/biased etc. We as black women even have crazy distorted thoughts about ourselves because of it, so he’s certainly not going to be immune.
Also, it could be a chance for learning on everyone’s part.
Maybe you’ll like putting marshmallows on the candied yams (yuck, I don’t but maybe you’ll like it).
Maybe you don’t have a particular “Chad” in mind but you watched the royal wedding or back episodes of “Scandal” or even re-watched Sanaa Lathan in “Something New” and you’re curious.
Just means, I think you should take some of the pressure off of yourself to find some perfect racially unbiased white man.Here’s a tip though, offer to bring a side dish when you’re going to see his people.You shouldn’t show up empty-handed to someone’s house anyway — you know that.Or you could communicate, “Oh, you put raisins in your potato salad, we don’t make it that way in my family is there a reason you do that?” I believe interracial relationships are a chance for learning and sharing.