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It’s normal now for the guy to bring up if he wants a family or not by the second date, which is positive about dating in my 30s. Because everyone is trying to find a partner, it’s easy to make stupid mistakes and fall for men that are definitely bad for you but are promising all the right things.
In my 20s, I would have seen right through these over-eager men, but in my 30s sometimes I’m so focused on finding what I want that I fall for these over-the-top promises with the wrong person.
I’ve found it shocking how much this has happened to me. (My heart was broken when my last boyfriend and I broke up, and I never got to see his daughter again after I’d been a big part of her life for a year.) So, before I go out with a guy, I ask. Most recently, I asked the guy point blank, and he replied that he had no kids. After dinner, when we walked out of the restaurant, I explained that I would not be staying to walk around, and I was going home. I got a text a few minutes later in which he apologized for offending me and not being honest. So I usually decide pretty quickly if I see a future with the guys I date.Then, on our first (and only) date, a little ways into dinner, he explained that he did have children, two children, but they didn’t count because they were older, not babies. The men I’ve dated feel the pressure too — on first dates, there isn’t much beating around the bush.So far I haven’t had much luck, but I have realized there are still good people out there. Everyone has their own settled life, and sometimes I have breakdowns over it and have to convince myself that it’s okay to be single.But overall, I’m glad I waited because I was not confident enough to find the right partner in my 20s.